Importance of Your Human-Cat Bond
caring for a cat has long been hailed as therapeutic for
those who are alone, anxious, depressed, under stress, or in
recovery. Research has suggested that pet ownership
positively influences your emotional state and health.
with your cat interrupts your stressful thoughts in part
because your pet offers you the opportunity for the most
basic, necessary, and nurturing form of communication:
touch. Having a cat is having "someone" to care
for and about - a special someone who cares about you back.
This gives meaning to your life and spurs you to keep going
influences you positively and directly in social situations
as well. People with animals are thought to be friendlier,
happier, more hardworking, and intelligent.
is Your Cat So Important to You?
Your cat offers you happiness
and wholehearted caring because it
Accepts and loves you unconditionally.
Provides you with an ever-ready smile.
Listens to you attentively.
Encourages you to share your sadness and joy.
Touches you and savors your touch.
Distracts you with when you are feeling low.
Remains your loyal friend and
Impacts you physically, emotionally, psychically,
cat meets many of your emotional needs.
Happens When Your Cat Leaves You?
have had a cherished relationship with your cat. Your cat
has been a significant and vital part of your life. So when you lose this special bond -
accident, chronic illness, or death - you may suffer nearly
grief, pain, and loss.
are Grief and Recovery?
is when you experience a deep, wide hole in your life ... in
your heart. Things have changed radically and negatively.
What you have been doing and enjoying with your beloved cat
you are no longer doing.
are reaching out for someone
who has always been there and has always been a special and
integral part of your life. But now, when you need
them one more time, they are no longer there.
on the other hand, is when you are able to put the loss and
grief in perspective. You begin to feel a little better and
a little more
in control. That is, you are getting to a point where you
are not crying all the time, thinking "if only I'd done
X or Y instead." You are getting to the point where you
the fondest memories of your cat companion without having to suffer
the painfully sharp feelings of remorse and regret.
are discovering that it is okay for you to continue to feel twinges
of sadness and miss your cat's personality,
antics, and love. You need to and want to
talk about your cat and your life with it. You will start to
find new meaning in what your cat contributed to your life
and how you are a much better person for having known your
companion, despite your seeming all-too-brief time together.
Recovery means your stepping back and seeing your loss in a
new way. No longer something to be sad about but something
to be glad about. You had the rare opportunity to share life
with someone who unconditionally loved you. Irrespective of
the time you and your companion were together, your cat gave
you something exquisitely special that significantly
enhanced you life ... for which you are truly grateful.
Makes Expressing Your Grief So Hard?
your grief about the loss of your cat companion is not easy. Our society
tends to trivialize pet
loss and, thus, the deep relationship it represents. Too
often you hear friends, family, and strangers alike saying
dismissively, "It was only a cat." Or, "You
can always get another one." Not everyone values
non-human beings or can understand why others do and what it
other people find speaking about grief and loss to be awkward.
They would prefer not to have to deal with it. And even
those who understand what this loss means to you may
struggle with saying something comforting. Instead, they may
say nothing. Also, too often there are few local resources
available to address this kind of loss.
reading pet loss books is helpful, talking and sharing with
someone who is sensitive, empathetic, and experienced in
helping with pet loss can make all the difference in how
well you deal with it.
result is the same. You are left in isolation with few ways
to share your intense feelings of shock and disbelief,
denial, anger, guilt, and despairówith altered patterns
of sleep, eating, and energy. Sometimes you may feel you
have to hide or deny your grief because others consider it
unacceptable. But doing so only buries the hurt, putting you at risk of prolonging
your pain and your healing process.
Can Make Grieving Less Hard?
this most delicate time what you need is an understanding
and empathetic ear, support, guidance, and the experience
and expertise of a pet loss professional. This is someone
who intimately knows the pain and grief of saying
"good-bye" and can help you work through your
loss, make the necessary decisions, and honor and pay
tribute to the memory of your beloved cat.
what a relief that would be!
Can You Find a Pet Loss Professional?
A. Dayhoff, Ph.D., can help you. For over 28
years I have been a Social Psychologist, Cat Communicator,
Applied Cat Behaviorist, Life
Coach, Cat Companion, and Pet Loss Consultant. I have provided Pet Loss Support Groups and
Consultation in conjunction with homeless animals rescue
such as CARMA (Companion Animal Rescue and Medical
Assistance) and Placitas Animal Rescue.
Exactly Does Pet Loss Support & Consulting Do?
Acknowledge the extent of your grief, loss, and confusion.
Share your pain with someone who is understanding, caring,
Discover how to effectively focus on your specific issues at
each stage of bereavement.
Give yourself permission to grieve and share your
Make necessary pet loss-related decisions.
Celebrate your cat and keep its memory alive and
Achieve release, acceptance, and finally peace.
is Pet Loss Consulting Done?
Loss Consulting is done by phone wherein you call me at a
scheduled time. It is $50 for 30 minutes. One
session per week is the minimum recommended schedule for
working through pet loss. If you wish to commit ahead of
time to four (4) 30-minute sessions per month, the per-month fee is
consulting on a per-session basis, payment is due prior to each session.
For consulting on
a monthly basis, payment for the month is due prior to
the first session of that month. Day time and evening hours are
available from 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. Mountain Time.
Will I Know Pet Loss Consulting is Right For Me?
you are feeling overwhelmed by the loss of your cat
companion or its chronic illness and are
spinning your wheels trying to makes sense of it all as well
as feel better, contact me to receive your FREE
15-minute Consulting Session.
provide you with an introductory session so you can
experience firsthand what Pet Loss Consultation can do for
you. At the end of this complimentary session I will suggest
what steps you might consider next in dealing with your
If you feel this will work for you, you can
sign up for individual or monthly appointments. In helping yourself
you are also helping the all-volunteer,
non-profit CARMA care for homeless companion animals and
find them loving homes.
is a complimentary,
no-obligation offer so you have nothing to
lose and everything to gain. Contact me mailto:DrSigne@LoveYourCatsInnerTiger.com
or phone at 505-867-0094 to arrange for your Complimentary 15-minute Consultation or
to register for your Pet Loss Consulting. Please put
"Loss" in the e-mail Subject Line.
Choose Dr. Signe for Your Cat Loss Consulting?
Experience, expertise, understanding, caring &
Customized individual program
Information, resources, advice, tips, strategies
up now if you want to ease your grief and loss. You
that your cat would want you to remember your life of love
and fun together, not its last moments of pain.
information is held in the strictest confidence.
A. Dayhoff, Ph.D., mailto:DrSigne@LoveYourCatsInnerTiger.com
share this with anyone you know who has suffered the trauma
of losing a companion animal.
you truly communicate with your cat, you embrace your
cat's inner tiger, and love your relationship and yourself even